After about two seconds of contemplation I had to say no. I don't think I believe in 'types': it just seems a bit strange to me that anyone would paint a mental picture and say 'that and that only will I ever find attractive'. If only because being attracted to people involves such a complex and unpredictable cocktail of elements that it's impossible to think that:
a. You'll ever find the imaginary person you've chosen as your 'type
b. You'll never find a person attractive who doesn't fit into your type
You shouldn't use a 'type' to help you find a life partner.
I was trying to explain further and decided to use this illustration: watch The Lord of the Rings. How many members of the fellowship do you find attractive? Weirdly, the only ones I'd exclude from such a grouping would be Gandalf and Gimli. That's it; I'd marry any of the others at a moment's notice. (If they were in fact real. Which they aren't.) Attractiveness is based on a lot of different variable characteristics. My brother, Jay, who manages to turn every conversation into an opportunity for teasing, started berating me for being prejudiced against Gimli. Because that's what brothers are for.
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